This morning I read one of the most honest appraisals of marriage that I have ever come across. Even though I am not married I filed it away for future consideration because it is my hope to one day meet a woman who inspires me to serve them and invite them into every sphere of my life. The gist of the article is the author laying out 3 poignent truths he wished he knew before he got married. He relays how much of his single life was dominated by a wish to “remain undisturbed” and how marriage is the greatest of all disruptions.

He highlights that he entered into marriage with suitcases packed with misconceptions, false expectations and distortions about marriage. One of those distortions was the general idea that marriage was primarily about making one’s self more happy. However he dismantles that notion and explains that marriage is not principally about personal happiness but rather progressive wholeness. In other words marriage brings to the surface areas of self-focus that must be abandoned for the sake of two becoming one. Yet as this is done happiness usually arises as a biproduct–as well as productivity and health in other areas of one’s life.

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