Singleness: The Undisturbed Life. Marriage: The Great Disruption

This morning I read one of the most honest appraisals of marriage that I have ever come across. Even though I am not married I filed it away for future consideration because it is my hope to one day meet a woman who inspires me to serve them and invite them into every sphere of my life. The gist of the article is the author laying out 3 poignent truths he wished he knew before he got married. He relays how much of his single life was dominated by a wish to “remain undisturbed” and how marriage is the greatest of all disruptions.

He highlights that he entered into marriage with suitcases packed with misconceptions, false expectations and distortions about marriage. One of those distortions was the general idea that marriage was primarily about making one’s self more happy. However he dismantles that notion and explains that marriage is not principally about personal happiness but rather progressive wholeness. In other words marriage brings to the surface areas of self-focus that must be abandoned for the sake of two becoming one. Yet as this is done happiness usually arises as a biproduct–as well as productivity and health in other areas of one’s life.

To read the complete article click here.

About StriderMTB

Hi, I'm Matt. "Strider" from Lord of the Rings is my favorite literary character of all time and for various reasons I write under the pseudonym "StriderMTB. As my blog suggests I seek to live out both the excitement and tension of a Christian walk with Christ in the 3rd world context of Asia. I started my blog as an unmarried man who was blessed to oversee an orphanage of amazing children in South-East Asia. As of 2022, I am a happily married man to an amazing missionary wife serving together on the mission field. I hate lima beans and love to pour milk over my ice-cream. I try to stay active in both reading and writing and this blog is a smattering of my many thoughts. I see the Kingdom of God as Jesus preached it and lived to be the only hope for a broken world and an apathetic church.
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